When I started my VA business, I was actually afraid of saying no to clients, prospects, family, friends, and even myself! A habit I had kept from my employee days, where saying no can have negative consequences.
As someone who was an employee for the majority of my life, saying no always came with consequences. Some of them were not too nice, like being reprimanded, written up, or even fired. That’s why saying no to clients or prospects was so though even if I knew it was the right thing to do.
I said yes to prospective clients that I knew were not right for me. Why? Because it was a referral from either a family member or client and I felt I had to. There is that “employee” behavior rearing its ugly head.
I got myself into all types of sticky situations because I said yes when I should have said no. The first thing I had to do was realize it was OK to say no and give myself permission to do so. That wasn’t easy!
But I kept looking back on the experiences I had when I said yes instead of no and that gave me courage. So the next time I actually did say no and it was scary. But the world didn’t stop spinning and I didn’t get in trouble or reprimanded. Whew!
The first time is always the hardest but it all starts with giving yourself permission to saying NO to clients, prospects, or anybody else. Remember, my motto is “your business, your choice”. You know what is right for you and what isn’t.
Use that to make the best choices for you (not for what others think is best for you) and say NO when it’s not right. Oh, and you don’t have to explain your answer. No is a complete sentence.
Always remember, saying no to one thing is saying yes to the possibility of another.
Thanks for reading – Susan
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